I am anxiously watching the days until I get my hands on the FULL copy of Crystal Paine’s new book. —- Say Goodbye to Survival Mode: 9 Simple Strategies to Stress Less, Sleep More, and Restore Your Passion for Life . I have followed her for years for her money saving tips but I also love her eye opening life tips!
While all of our lives may be very different I have come to realize that as mothers regardless of what we do our lives are actually very similar. While I love being able to work at home it presents it’s own set of struggles. I couldn’t imagine leaving my kids but at the same time kids don’t always understand that I am working… because I am at home:).
Do you know how many business calls I take in my basement stairwell OR on my back porch??
You would think after this many years they would get it, but they still haven’t. However, I have found whether you are a WAHM, SAHM or you are working outside the home most of our lives are made up with endless lists that we could never even begin to complete (although we expect ourselves to). We torture ourselves with unreasonable expectations and the majority of the time spread ourselves so thin that we seem to fail at everything.
There’s a saying I have loved for years. This was so true of my life even when I worked outside the home. I feel it’s the constant battle within my soul at all time!
If you try to be everything to everyone you end up being nothing to anyone.
That’s the story of my life. I expect myself to be a full time mom, a full time wife, a full time cook, a full time maid, a full time blogger oh how the list could go on… but so many times I realize I need to stop thinking about what I think people expect and remember what is important. That’s where this book is SOO powerful.
There is one word I think many of us could use to describe our everyday lives… STUCK. That doesn’t mean you don’t love your family, your children or those around you. It just means you have lost the passion in your life. The “stuff”has gotten in our way.
Many of your know I suffered a life changing attack and even worse lost my husband one horrible night 8 years ago. I wrestle with I think what anyone would in this situation. I guess it’s called survivor’s guilt. It can be debilitating at times but when I think about it logically I think it should be inspiring. After all I am here, I need to do something with my life, something big, something huge. But what I will never forget is the night everything happened as we were getting ready for bed like most every night instead of sitting down and enjoying time with my husband after the kids went to bed I was cleaning. I might say that was fine if I wasn’t such a clean freak that this was my normal night.
I spent so much of my life obsessed with things that didn’t matter! I missed out on countless moments I could now have to cherish. I vowed I would NEVER do that again. The problem is… it’s very hard to find a healthy balance without always playing catch up. I want to spend time with my family, I want to have those moments but I feel like I am always in survival mode. Doing that load of towels because we are out, the dishes never seem to end and the clutter… oh the clutter.
This is exactly what I need! Just reading the 1st chapter. Learning to create a personal priorities list. Find out what’s important to me. Just that in itself seems so foreign. As Moms since when do we think about what’s good for us or what we want :). I am pledging that I am going to take all 9 of these strategies and put them to use now. If I want my 2014 to be better I have to create it right? My family deserves my best me!
So if your stressed out, super busy and overtired this might be the right thing for you too. Come on this journey with me.
You can pre-order the book below.